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HOW PRESENT IS OUR PAST?
“Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift.” — Bill Keane
Our life is made up of a series of events to which we assign meaning. It is the interpretation we give these events that defines how we see ourselves, who we are, what we do, and what we are capable of achieving. Have you ever heard the phrase “we are meaning-making machines”? We are constantly on the lookout for clues that validate and confirm the interpretations we’ve made. These interpretations were mostly formed in early childhood and often follow us unquestioned.
So, it’s not the actual events that affect our lives, but the meaning we attach to them. For example, what someone decided bullying at school meant to them is what influenced their later life. What someone chose to believe about their parents’ divorce is what ultimately shaped their life journey.
As we grow, we keep seeking out evidence that supports these early interpretations — and that’s how our beliefs are formed.
So it’s our interpretations of life’s events that shape our reality. Only when we begin to distinguish between the event itself and our interpretation of it, and act with awareness (what is actually happening), do we realize that at any given moment, we have a choice: to react or to respond.
This shows how important it is to become aware of the meanings we’ve given to the significant events in our lives and the beliefs we’ve formed about ourselves and the world.
If we change those beliefs — especially the negative ones that keep us stuck in the past — we can begin to move toward our goals more freely and decisively.
Every choice we make from there on will directly affect and shape the paths we take in the future.
Who hasn’t had thoughts like these?
I’m not lovable
I’m not worthy / It’s not allowed for me (a very common belief)
I’m not smart enough, good enough, attractive enough
I don’t belong
I must always be in control
I can’t trust anyone
I’m insignificant, invisible
I have no power (very common among women)
I have to be perfect
There’s only one right way
These are some of the internal beliefs that stop us from living the life we truly want and deserve.
More than our genetic code, our intelligence, our gender, our education, the country we were born in, or any other external factors that might benefit us in life — what really shapes our experience are the lies and truths we’ve come to believe.
It’s important to understand, listen to, and overcome what our subconscious “believes” in order to change our life circumstances.

A large percentage of what we believe is driven by the subconscious mind.
When we’re around 7 years old, for example, and our sense of self isn’t confirmed or supported, we feel hurt, confused, and uncertain. That’s when the subconscious takes over and tries to fill in the gaps — coming up with plausible and comforting explanations that form the basis of our core beliefs. These become rigid understandings about ourselves, others, and the world — a sense of certainty and control over what we’ve accepted as truth.
Let’s not forget that until about age 7, we don’t have critical thinking or logical filters. We perceive the world through our parents’ lens, which we accept as our only truth.
Now imagine someone growing up in an aggressive environment. They might believe “love is aggressive and unsafe” or “I shouldn’t express my feelings because I’ll feel exposed and unsafe.” As we’ve said, these aren’t proven truths — but within our inner belief system, we will keep creating conditions and experiences that reinforce them.
As a result, we develop subconscious strategies to handle the emotional tension these beliefs cause.
For example, if I believe it’s not safe to show my feelings, I might subconsciously adopt a more masculine or tough exterior — someone who focuses on action and holds back emotions. Unfortunately, because I see emotions as unsafe, I’ll be drawn to people who reinforce this belief.
Every “random” encounter in our life reflects our internal beliefs. These beliefs define our sense of self, our view of others, and the world around us.The quality of our lives is a direct reflection of the meaning we give to the emotions triggered by our beliefs — and the people we choose to surround ourselves with.Let’s not forget that the beliefs we formed at a younger age once helped us survive certain situations. Today, they still function at a subconscious level and attract situations and challenges that are no longer useful or beneficial